The Days of All Souls November 1 - 3, 2013
We remember you Dad and our relatives who've passed. Stories. Flashes of scenes. Conversations. The things you loved. We remember Lala and Mami, too. Hilarious. Crazy. Loving. And we miss you all.
We hope/pray that your souls are where you believe they should be - heaven and at peace.
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One year ago today, you left us Dad. We felt then as we do now that your last months went by too quickly and we hoped that you would have been with us a little longer.
You passed during your favorite time of year, autumn. Just at the beginning of football season, baseball nearing it's end. It was hot last year, not your favorite. We made you as comfortable as we could and fretted over whether it was enough for you. But then nothing would have been good enough because we loved you so much.
I often think about the unresolved things that were ruled by circumstance, knowing that if we could have cleared the misunderstandings that seemed to plague us at times, we would have no regrets whatsoever. But I am thankful that I spent most of the night before you passed at your side, caring for you and letting you know, clearing this stuff up. That you know how loved and missed you already were. That you are now, and now at least you know.
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Happy Father's Day, Dad!
Not an easy day for us without you.
Glad we could spend last year's Father's Day with you, as a family, once more. We were not sure then if that would be your last one, but we knew it had to be with all of us.
Love and miss you!!
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This is the first spring without Bob. Honoring his passing and his belief in eternal life this past Easter.
Lit candles for him and his childhood family - siblings, parents & Nonina and their spouses who've also passed - at St. Elizabeth's church, his parish.
Clare, his sister and our aunt, deeply missed Bob and their other sister, Emily who passed last May. She prayed everyday to not suffer her own illnesses anymore and finally joined the rest of the family who have already passed on March 10th, 2013.
Happy Birthday, Dad! We love you always.
February 26th, 2013 - This would have been Bob's 80th birthday. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers today - by remembering the man he was - hilarious, fun to be around, compassionate.
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Our father, Bob Toci, passed away on September 11, 2012 due to complications of metestatic adenocarcinoma (an advanced cancer). We are both mourning his loss and are overcome with how quickly he left us from when he was diagnosed, just 3 months ago.
Bob was very strong, having lived with this condition years before it had surfaced. He had remained quite active throughout these years and continued to care for his loving sister, Clare, even after he had been diagnosed until he couldn't, (and we wouldn't let him), do so any longer.
He continued to do whatever he could to be independent. He refused hospital care and so he remained at home, where his three children - Kim, Linda, and Robert - cared for him continuously until his passing.
Although we knew he was not going to be with us much longer, we are still coming to terms with how quickly he went. Our consolation is that he did not have as much time to suffer and we kept him as comfortable as he would let us, being the proud, tough man that he was.
We miss him deeply and appreciate the many wonderful qualities he possessed. We wanted to create this website so that we may exchange fond memories of him. 
This website is a work in progress. We'll be adding more to it as we can. Please feel free to register and add your own memories, condolensces, candles, photos, etc.
Bob did not wish to have a service to mark his passing. We hope that visitors of this website find some consolation as we do.
We ask that a donation in lieu of flowers be sent to the American Cancer Society.
There is a donation option through this website. However, the link for it takes you to a payal payment page, with an email address already on it. If one chooses to donate using this option, simply type the email address of your own user account over the current one to process.
Otherwise, please go directly to the American Cancery Society website donation page:
https://www.cancer.org/involved/donate/donateonlinenow/index
Or mail to donation mailing address:
PO Box 22718; Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, 73123-1718
| William Toci | Uncle Bobby | October 27, 2012 |
| Donna Cederwall | Memories of a speciial uncle | October 19, 2012 |
It was so nice to see pictures of your dad that I hadn't seen. Of course I remember a few such as the Fort Ord pictures. His mom would pack a huge lunch with salami and french bread of course. We would picnic with him on the property at Fort Ord. I was about 14. He will always have a special place in my heart because he was extremely kind and always supportive.
I remember one halloween when he dressed up like a woman. His sisters really outdid themselves with the makeup and padding his chest. He was so funny. We would watch when he would go up to various houses of kids he knew and the laughter eccoed. So many were surpjrised it was him.
He was very much like his dad, one of my happiest memories growing up. His dad was very gentle, laughed easiely, always had music going in the kitchen and very loving.
He will be missed greatly by me. I wish you each healing. I know what you had to go through was very difficult. Some day you may look on this time as a gift from God that you 3 where able to give him the gift of family being near and that he could die at home.
Your cousin, Donna
| Jacek Owczarz | Remembering Bob | October 7, 2012 |
I heard that your father passed away a few days ago. I'm really sorry, because I liked Bob very much. I still have a lot of pictures in memory in which he was always smiling, always full of wit and energy. I remember how he always greeted me when I was staying in Oakland. Bob would stand on the balcony and as I was crossing the street, he would raise his head and wave shouting with his specific Italian accent: Hi jazek! I waved him back and we had a chat, me standing on one side of the street, him on the other .His was a family man, very friendly and his attitude always encouraged me to find enough strength to go through this enormous alienation and culture shock. I still remember him as emotional man, just like most people I know have in Poland. I'm rather reluctant to speak too much, but I am quite emotional and sensitive. He was a great man. Lots of love
Expressions of sympathy from all your Polish family.
Jacek
